Type 7

Type 7 ~ The Epicure


Your Basic Proposition

The original state of focused concentration, called “Holy Work” or constancy, with an ability to travel the spectrum of life fully and freely, goes into the background in a world that you perceive as frustrating or limiting, which causes pain that needs to be avoided. You come to believe that you must escape frustration and pain, assuring a good life by instead creating alternative options, opportunities, and adventures. Concurrently, you develop gluttony of the mind for positive possibilities, pleasures, and future plans. Your attention naturally goes to positive scenarios and keeping life up. Rationalization glues the structure together by helping you reframe painful or “negative” experiences in a positive way. Your ultimate concern or fear is being trapped in suffering and not able to deal with pain. As compensation, you sometimes gain control by becoming self-oriented (acting entitled and superior to others), rejecting authority, making excuses, demeaning or trivializing negative feelings, being impetuous and inconsiderate of others


What stresses you and makes you most personally reactive: Constraints or limits placed upon you; losing freedom to do what you want; getting stuck in negativity; and people who are stuck in unhappiness or depression.

These reactions block your being able to stay consistently present with an open heart, and ultimately, blocks your ability to accept both joy AND sorrow as part of life. 

Your Strengths:  Loving life, thinking positive and being playful, enjoyable, inventive, imaginative, energetic, optimistic, helpful, spontaneous, and open to possibilities.

The Central Theme for Your Healing and Development:  The central issue for your healing and development may be difficult to grasp, because you are being asked to welcome in all of life as it exists in the present moment – fear, pain, sadness, boredom, and limitation as well as pleasure, joy, excitement, and options. In the process, you must ask yourself to reduce excess, delay gratification, and take only what really is needed. You must ask yourself to empathize with the entire spectrum of experience in others and to care about others’ well-being in equal proportion to your own. Yet for playful, adventuresome, future-oriented Epicures, who habitually direct their outward-moving energy toward positive alternatives and possibilities, this task of deepening and simplifying life and of steadying attention in the here and now is just what is needed to make your life whole

 


Strategies for Your Self-Development and Fulfillment Relationships
  • Become aware of over-scheduling, multiple projects, and future planning as clues to avoiding something “negative”
  • Notice that you are missing the depth of experience + pleasure by staying on the surface
  • Make and keep commitments and agreements with yourself and others
  • Ground yourself in the present and moderate your pace
  • Acknowledge the desires and well-being of others in equal proportion to your own
  • Realize that the full spectrum of life and deeper purpose includes the “darker side” of life – its pains, loss, and limitations; accept pain and suffering as part of your wholeness

 


How Others Can Assist Your Relationship Development
  • Encourage the Epicure to make deep commitments, accept pain as well as pleasure in life, and appreciate the value and worth of all others
  • Provide a supportive framework for a Seven to move into painful situations and
  • Make your own needs, wants and feelings important
  • Apply the KISS principle (keep it simple “sweetie”)