The Updated 2025 Edition of “The Enneagram, Relationships, and Intimacy: Understanding One Another Leads to Loving More and Living More Fully”
Written by David Daniels, MD and Suzanne Dion, Enneagram Relationship Coach, Suzanne, along with David’s children—Denise Daniels, PhD and JD Daniels, PhD—are pleased to announce the Revised 2025 Edition with Morgan James Publishing.
MESSAGE FROM DAVID
This book addresses the powerful need we have—physiologically, emotionally, and spiritually—for connection, for love. Research tells us that we are “social” creatures and that our cognitive-emotional-somatic development is dependent on “love,” on consistent-enough “connection and bonding,” during our formative years. Without it, we flounder. We ache emotionally, and we struggle to potentiate, individuate, even to love freely.
Choosing to develop our “love-ability,” our capacity to give and receive love, is just about the greatest gift we can gift ourselves and others; it’s at the core of what sustains us and is a pursuit that I have come to cherish over all else. There are lots of books written on love; some great ones discuss secure attachment and plenty too have been written on relationships and how to make them better.
What we have brought to the table is my over 40 years of study as a private-practice psychiatrist (working primarily with couples), my 61 years of marriage, and my deep and comprehensive understanding of human temperament and personality proclivities—thanks to having studied something called “the Enneagram.” Of all of the treatment modalities I worked with and tried out across my therapeutic career, nothing came close to helping couples heal their hearts and relax their defenses as much as I witnessed happen when working with a comprehensive application of the Enneagram system. This is what this book is about. It’s what has been on my heart for years and what I believe I came here to share.”
About the Enneagram and Relationships Book
There are lots of books out there written about love. Some great ones discuss the importance of early secure attachment, and plenty too have been written about relationships and how to make them better. This book is a bit different. On behalf of Dr. David N. Daniels, Clinical Professor Emeritus Stanford Medical School, Suzanne Dion brings their shared personal passion for human development to the table along side David’s over 40 years of study as a private-practice psychiatrist (working primarily with couples), a 61-year marriage, and a deep and comprehensive understanding of human temperament and personality proclivities.
Thanks to having studied something called, “the Enneagram,” David says, “…of all of the treatment modalities I worked with and tried out across my therapeutic career, nothing came close to helping couples heal their hearts, deconstruct their defenses, and open receptively as much as I witnessed happening when using a comprehensive application of the Enneagram system.” Understanding ourselves as well as others—with acceptance, discernment, curiosity, and wonderment—in the way the Enneagram precipitates, provides the greatest foundation from which to build healthier, more receptive and more fulfilling relationships. It is our fundamental relationships that sustain our lives, fuel our happiness, and support our greater development and potential.
Bringing this book to fruition was the passionate focus of much of David’s time, exploration, and thought the last many years of his life and was an honor for Suzanne to see through to completion. Within it holds David and Suzanne’s endearing understanding of human relationships and a devotion to contributing to a more loving world. Learn about…
- The 9 Enneagram Types: Multiple descriptions and Tips for Growth
- Self-intimacy as the gateway to intimacy with others
- Attachment—our first love story
- The contributory ways that we’re wired
- Three centers of intelligence and the three mammalian aversive emotional systems
- Gender and the Enneagram, a new look, a compassionate perspective
- What tears us apart?
- The conditional love of type
- Nine Enneagram types and sexuality—nine ways we either diminish or enhance intimacy and fulfillment
THE FOREWORD
Daniel J. Siegel is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and executive director of the Mindsight Institute. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for the professional audience, including numerous articles, chapters, and internationally acclaimed books on topics such as mindful awareness, parenting, attachment, relationships, and brain development. Visit his website: drdansiegel.com
THE AUTHORS
David Daniels, M.D., (1934 – 2017), a leading developer of the Enneagram and co-founder of the renowned training school, The Narrative Enneagram (TNE), was clinical professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Stanford Medical School. He is co-author of the updated (2009) The Essential Enneagram and devoted the last ten years of his life writing this final book on human intimacy. His passion was human relationships. His purpose was loving kindness. His career — his life – was dedicated to the development of openheartedness, receptivity, and the compassionate acceptance of ourselves, of those we love, and of the world we create with each other.
Suzanne Dion is an Enneagram teacher, coach, consultant, and facilitator certified by Palmer-Daniels, now “The Narrative Enneagram.” For several years, Suzanne designed curriculum and taught incarcerated men and women, and co-taught in prison with David, as one of the original founding board members of Enneagram Prison Project (EPP). Suzanne worked collaboratively with David—his organizations and projects—since 2005. Currently one of the co-founders of TAPP – The Attuned Parent Project, her current Enneagram work focuses on using the Enneagram to reconnect with one’s deeper self and support one’s own healing of developmental trauma at the core of relationships and relational difficulty. Suzanne is dedicated to bringing David’s Enneagram and relationships work to the fore. Suzanne is also a digital multimedia artist, writer, and principal for the ChaelDion Group, a design and marketing communications company.