Growth for Type 6: The Loyal Skeptic
Basic Essential Practice: From a grounded, receptive, openhearted, and non-judgmental stance, notice how your recurring concerns associated with perceived hazards and questioning about what you can trust in fueled by your driving energy of underlying fear and doubt and your desire for sureness and security. These stem from your core belief that to be secure, loved, and valued you must seek certainty, assurance, and predictability in a world that you experience is hazardous and you just can’t count on. If you are more counter-fearful, notice your contrary thinking and necessity to face challenges. If you are more directly fearful, notice your tendency to avoid fearful situations. Then can you realize that your faith and trust in yourself and others has gone into the background? Take the energy in your imaginations, your magnified “negative spin” on life, and breathe down and into your body’s gravitational center in your belly, in the process calming your mind and centering yourself. From here you can put attention on all that you can count on and the positives in your life. And then from a base of trust, remind yourself to notice that there is no substitute for real faith in yourself and others, which does not mean blindness to real hazards. And remind yourself to notice how others respond when you allow yourself to have this faith while opening your heart.
Additional Key Themes for Reflection: Simply stop for a minute or so 3-4 times a day to center and reflect on one of the following:
Fear. Simply stop and notice where fear in your body is and inquire of yourself to discern if there really is anything to avoid or challenge, knowing that mostly this is the result of magnifying what seems fearful. Then act accordingly.
Imagination. Simply stop to remind yourself that your “blind spot” is magnifying in your imagination what you experience as hazardous and unpredictable. Then act accordingly, moving into rather than away or against what seems fearful but truly isn’t.
Doubt/contrary thinking. Stop and notice how doubtfulness, questioning, and contrary thoughts keep coming up in your mind. Do your best to release from these and move forward into action.
Short Reflections for Reclaiming the Essential Quality
With openhearted kindness toward yourself simply practice several times a day for a minute or so saying and living one of the following each for a few days at a time. Do these all with the receptive energy encompassed in the “may I.” Recall that the higher quality or virtue for type Six is natural courage meaning appropriately moving forward into fearful situations not against or away from these.
- May I return to the present noticing what is OK, not just what isn’t OK.
- May I have faith in myself and in this, the process of life itself.
- May I go into fearful situations, not away from or against them which in time allows for tranquility.
- May I make fear a friend instead of believing in its story.
- May I cultivate an ease of being, noticing my habitual magnification of worst cases.
- May I cultivate courage rather than seeking certainty, trusting that nothing destroys essence.